If you have been married for a long time and have never tried talking dirty to your husband, you may feel intimidated by the very thought of inviting it into your love life.
In married life you tend to fall into set roles. Once the initial couple of years of passion have passed, all the distractions and compulsions of daily life might sap you of so much energy, you hardly have time for sex; leave alone innovations!
You might also feel shy or apprehensive about suddenly stepping out of your usual mold. What will your husband feel about you donning a new, risqué role?
Will he be shocked? Will he welcome it with open arms or will he treat you with suspicion?
Dirty Talk Can Give You More Freedom
Getting started can often be the biggest hurdle you will face. But once you are past this starting trouble, the two of you will come to truly enjoy the honesty and openness of being able to talk dirty to each other. You just have to give yourself, and each other, the permission to start.
Here are some ways to make it easier to introduce dirty talk into you marriage:
1. Create an Ambience for Love
When you make an effort to make a beautiful space, it sends out its own signals. Light some candles; dim the lights; put on some sexy music for dancing; decorate the room with exotic flowers; scent the room with his favorite perfume…
Setting up an atmosphere for sex will make him feel special, wanted and sexy.
It will also put you in a special mood where you want to please and are ready to be pleased yourself. This will make it easier for you to open up.
When you prepare the bedroom, let everything emanate an erotic message: sexy scents; satin sheets; lacy lingerie laid out; an erotic book in view… The scene will speak for itself and lend to your mood.
2. Tease Him!
Men are usually expected to stay in control of themselves at all times. Being teased to the point of loosing control can be an exhilarating experience for your man.
Men love to be sexually teased, so go ahead and pamper him. Tell him what you are going to do to him when he can’t do anything about it. Get him slavering over what you say to him, until you actually make it happen.
3. Tell Him What You Need
Explicitly and in great detail, tell you partner what you want him to do to you, or what you want to do to him. Nothing can be more exciting to your man than directly hearing it from your lips.
When you talk dirty about your wants and desires, you are making a powerful expression of your sexuality. It will turn you into a veritable sex goddess in his eyes!
Remember to stay within your comfort zone. Sensual words can be used extremely effectively in combination with your body talk without making you feel embarrassed.
4. Get Him to Reveal What He wants
This is how you involve him in your talk dirty and make it more comfortable and exciting for both of you.
Ask him leading questions on what he wants you to do and then act on his answers and then ask him with a sly, knowing smile, “like that?” Guaranteed to drive him crazy!
Get more explicit as you go along. Use different words to describe your bodies and the actions that turn you on to him.
Now you know these 4 simple steps to introduce talking dirty in your marriage, you can start making your husband comfortable with it. As you become more accomplished at it, you will find your love life taking on an entirely new sensuous dimension. Read more? Go here: http://www.how-to-talk-dirty-to-your-boyfriend.com/
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